On this, my Day of Days, I ask myself, What is the importance of a birthday? I think of my 21,185 days of living (including Leap Year days) in the context of the wide variety of people I’ve met who have, to one degree or another, influenced my decisions and actions.
This is not a day of melancholy any more than I allow it to be on Holidays. I reserve those thoughts for every other day of the year for, if I should lump them all in one huge bundle of sorrow, floodgates might open and, as with most aspects of life, I prefer not to go with the flow. Which is not to say there are no periods of waterfalls. I might reflect on a few moments of the past but looking through the rearview mirror of time I’m assured that what is left behind is thoughtfully preserved for clearer visions of the future.
To whose standards are my “successes” put to judgment? Opportunists would discount my accomplishments for a single chance to claim their own perceived successes that they may gain from my materialism. In contrast, others would think of my life an insignificant existence as compared to theirs. But it is I who ultimately assesses my degree of worth.
Disappointments? People. Among those I’ve met, there are many whom I hadn’t the opportunity to really know - sometimes an acquaintance who was intended to be a friend remains a stranger. But I don’t regret having crossed paths with people who may have done me emotional and/or physical harm, without which I would have learned fewer lessons and taught me less about my inner-selves. Adversaries play a part in the development of a person’s attitudes just as much as those who have proven to be of positive influences.
I am who I am. I will be whoever I allow myself to become. I will continue to have experiences instead of dreams, fulfillment rather than regrets. If I were a different person, I might mistakenly regret that I have fewer “things” than others. That which I encounter, I cherish as lessons learned in the school of life, from which graduation comes in the form of a death certificate, not a certification of life.
Many of life’s instructors, including Guilt and Jealousy, have taught me that I have much more to learn. I’m so grateful that community players of my childhood implanted in me values whereby my subconscious dictates my actions.
Music has also molded many of my emotions and enhanced my awareness. It continues to take my mind where I would otherwise not visit; melodies give me rhythm, lyrics give me insight to philosophical dilemmas. I am not a singer. I am not a songwriter. I am an accompanist.
Regardless of my biological age, my spirit remains as youthful in mind as in the past. Wrinkles mark my age to others, but the reflection I see in the mirror discounts their importance for I accept the genetic footprints that have structured the wear and tear that life has dealt to my mind and body, if not my soul.
What’s the importance of my birthday? That I shall live on for an unknown period of time. That I am more a statistic than the person I am, have been or will be. That within a pre-subscribed number of years I will be on Social Security and given whatever benefits Medicare will afford my health. That the count of candles on the cake seems more indicative of my age than the two-digit numerical figure.
What of the future? I fear not the unknown because today is indeed the first day of the rest of my life. I accept that which I have no control over, yet take control and thoughtfully consider the challenges I may encounter that will change the course of my remaining years.
I travel along a road named Ronald Alan Rae – by design, a one-way dead end street. There have been no detours. I have traveled along many side streets, some mired with hazards, and made many stops to get my bearings on which direction to proceed so as to keep me on a journey filled with adventures. Compromises are made out of brotherly love. Sacrifices are mine to make.
Death has the right of way. My Creator has eminent domain. I have the rest of my life to travel along whatever avenues that fate will allow. I am alive, so I shall live and reserve the future past tense for others to acknowledge.
Excuse me, but my birthdays are but momentary landmarks in time. I’ve gotta move on…. I’ve still gotta lot of livin’ to do!
Saturday, January 10, 2009
Monday, January 5, 2009
And The Blogs Just Keep On Comin'
The 2008 tally of my blogs is 128, which includes Parcel Post 08, Florida Menagerie 08, Hernando Hews 08, and The Rae Way.
Over all, it's a relatively small number as compared to many other blog sites but I do my best with the time I spend writing.
Besides, I can't sit at the computer all day long.... I'd have a flat ass sooner than I would otherwise!
Over all, it's a relatively small number as compared to many other blog sites but I do my best with the time I spend writing.
Besides, I can't sit at the computer all day long.... I'd have a flat ass sooner than I would otherwise!
Thursday, December 11, 2008
Talk or Write - It's All Alright
I’m a better writer than a conversationalist. On the phone, a voice-to-ear conversation can be filled with an embarrassing emotion, an inflection might give the listener hints that the spoken words were other than honest, or a misunderstanding might sideline the main topic into something entirely different.
On the other hand, Word Document is just the right medium to communicate with the opportunity to explain (manipulate?) a situation. There’s no immediate interaction when sent through email so it’s too easy to disregard subjects and references from previous communications. That’s what you call taking control for your own personal interest; keep the recipient confused by imbedding a sense of doubt.
Of course, verbal discussions can also work to express a sense of worth between two individuals with compliments and earnest concerns, possibly forming a mutual admiration between two people. The immediacy of a conversation can bring tears of joy or pain; laughter filled with sarcasm or a real belly buster; or words that expose anger or sheer delight. Innuendos, suggestive remarks, insults and intrusions are, at one time or another, products of an intimate conversation. Disrespect, threats and hate can be just as alarming as love, hope and charity can be bring tranquility.
The impersonal aspects of electronic communication can result in brazen self-indulgent arrogance and the intended reader can’t do too much about it.
If you don’t like the caller, don’t answer the phone, let it go to an answering service or, in some instances, block the caller, which is similar to an email service that can block the sender or the recipient can delete a message before it’s read.
Regardless how people interact, whether by phone or by electronic messaging, there’s always an inherent need for man to communicate with others. Everyone has their own reasons to keep in touch with people albeit it positive, negative or indifferent. The important thing is that no matter the distance between any two parties it can be bridged with spoken or written words. That's what makes lives interesting and meaningful.
On the other hand, Word Document is just the right medium to communicate with the opportunity to explain (manipulate?) a situation. There’s no immediate interaction when sent through email so it’s too easy to disregard subjects and references from previous communications. That’s what you call taking control for your own personal interest; keep the recipient confused by imbedding a sense of doubt.
Of course, verbal discussions can also work to express a sense of worth between two individuals with compliments and earnest concerns, possibly forming a mutual admiration between two people. The immediacy of a conversation can bring tears of joy or pain; laughter filled with sarcasm or a real belly buster; or words that expose anger or sheer delight. Innuendos, suggestive remarks, insults and intrusions are, at one time or another, products of an intimate conversation. Disrespect, threats and hate can be just as alarming as love, hope and charity can be bring tranquility.
The impersonal aspects of electronic communication can result in brazen self-indulgent arrogance and the intended reader can’t do too much about it.
If you don’t like the caller, don’t answer the phone, let it go to an answering service or, in some instances, block the caller, which is similar to an email service that can block the sender or the recipient can delete a message before it’s read.
Regardless how people interact, whether by phone or by electronic messaging, there’s always an inherent need for man to communicate with others. Everyone has their own reasons to keep in touch with people albeit it positive, negative or indifferent. The important thing is that no matter the distance between any two parties it can be bridged with spoken or written words. That's what makes lives interesting and meaningful.
GenXer vs Boomer
This past summer I happened upon an interactive web site called SodaHead. That's what I get set up with with a Google search on any given subject: I know not where I goest through the endless data streams of the Inet. This includes blogs.
I've learned not to accept facts from a questionable source as it may be, and probably is, to one side or the other in accuracy. Of course, I'm not included in that group since I research information from a number of web sites: established news services, government sources and official pages of a particular business.
As a member of SodaHead, I came upon a blog hosted by a 37-year old NonameGenXer who, with utter bitterness, placed all blame on Baby Boomers for the direction this country has gone. The lady wrote about the sell-out of Boomers to materialism, greed and te loss of solid direction for the betterment of mankind, taking it a personal affront to her future. I too have the same feelings.
Although my original response is lost to a deceased web page, the essence of those thoughts were sent in her acknowledgemet that not every Boomer is like the rest.
Nameless,
I feel a great accomplishment with your consideration of adding "Boomers Strike Back" on your website. Not all boomers are greedy and self-indulgent but many are the very ones who protested in the 60's yet have not fulfilled their promises to bring change to the world. I put a lot of blame on the establishment - corporations - to influence consumers in being the "throw-away" society. Boomers had the opportunity to take another path but, as you know, they have fine-tuned the American way whereby no one has sufficient savings and have maintained ignorance of the world community. There's no quickstep to catch up.
I, for one, refused to be molded into the excesses of an era of brats and opportunists.
Charles Reich wrote "The Greening of America" in the early 70's. I remember the basics but was somewhat lost on his multi-level awareness of the future of the economy of America and how we might bring about harmony between corporate interests and the individual but only if drastic steps were initiated to thwart what seemed the inevitable. It didn't happen thus we are at this point in history. Our buying habits and life styles (including putting careers and social contacts above families and personal awareness) are still controlled. I've started a blog on the topic but, as with many of those I save in Word, haven't completed - yet.
Good luck with "Boomers Strike Back". The inclusion of a link to my "Parcel Post" blog would be just fine. Perhaps I can get other readership beyond family and friends and a local newspaper editor. (In the past 18months, I've had dozens of letters printed in the St Pete Times, Tampa Trib, Tallahassee Democrat, plus local editions.) I’ve also had a feature article in the health section of a local paper. It comes with a certain amount of pride that as my thoughts and words progressively became lengthy, and apparently well expressed, I have become a “Guest Columnist” in both Hernando Today and the Hernando Times.
With a little pride and a lot of appreciation, I remain humble to be recognized as a viable contributor to readers’ interests. Anyway, the best of luck with "Boomers Strike Back". I'll keep an eye on your writings on your site - it's a Favorite.
Be well. Be Self.
Ron
I've learned not to accept facts from a questionable source as it may be, and probably is, to one side or the other in accuracy. Of course, I'm not included in that group since I research information from a number of web sites: established news services, government sources and official pages of a particular business.
As a member of SodaHead, I came upon a blog hosted by a 37-year old NonameGenXer who, with utter bitterness, placed all blame on Baby Boomers for the direction this country has gone. The lady wrote about the sell-out of Boomers to materialism, greed and te loss of solid direction for the betterment of mankind, taking it a personal affront to her future. I too have the same feelings.
Although my original response is lost to a deceased web page, the essence of those thoughts were sent in her acknowledgemet that not every Boomer is like the rest.
Nameless,
I feel a great accomplishment with your consideration of adding "Boomers Strike Back" on your website. Not all boomers are greedy and self-indulgent but many are the very ones who protested in the 60's yet have not fulfilled their promises to bring change to the world. I put a lot of blame on the establishment - corporations - to influence consumers in being the "throw-away" society. Boomers had the opportunity to take another path but, as you know, they have fine-tuned the American way whereby no one has sufficient savings and have maintained ignorance of the world community. There's no quickstep to catch up.
I, for one, refused to be molded into the excesses of an era of brats and opportunists.
Charles Reich wrote "The Greening of America" in the early 70's. I remember the basics but was somewhat lost on his multi-level awareness of the future of the economy of America and how we might bring about harmony between corporate interests and the individual but only if drastic steps were initiated to thwart what seemed the inevitable. It didn't happen thus we are at this point in history. Our buying habits and life styles (including putting careers and social contacts above families and personal awareness) are still controlled. I've started a blog on the topic but, as with many of those I save in Word, haven't completed - yet.
Good luck with "Boomers Strike Back". The inclusion of a link to my "Parcel Post" blog would be just fine. Perhaps I can get other readership beyond family and friends and a local newspaper editor. (In the past 18months, I've had dozens of letters printed in the St Pete Times, Tampa Trib, Tallahassee Democrat, plus local editions.) I’ve also had a feature article in the health section of a local paper. It comes with a certain amount of pride that as my thoughts and words progressively became lengthy, and apparently well expressed, I have become a “Guest Columnist” in both Hernando Today and the Hernando Times.
With a little pride and a lot of appreciation, I remain humble to be recognized as a viable contributor to readers’ interests. Anyway, the best of luck with "Boomers Strike Back". I'll keep an eye on your writings on your site - it's a Favorite.
Be well. Be Self.
Ron
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
BAD KITTY CAT
I grab the neck of that darn cat Sassy and ring it and toss his head around just a little bit. I’m forever having to spank him; sometimes people say it’s too hard.
What do expect from the “owner” when he misbehaves? Sassy is incessantly at my feet either paw-pickin’ my socks which is okay I guess but it’s a precursor of him attacking my ankle – for cryin’ out loud, I can feel his teeth on my skin! Bad kitty.
His harassment starts early in the morning, well before sunrise, like at 530am. He is so persistent in trying to get fed before breakfast the 7am breakfast. For a Siamese cat that hasn’t yet developed into the typical yowler, he sure makes his voice heard loud, clear and annoying. Some days I have to kick him. Sorry but that’s the way it is. We’re still trying to work out the details about it being my house but his domain.
Once his tummy is fed, Sassy exposes that same tummy trying to be so loving but his selfish goal is get me to assist him in stretching. I will say that with my training he does have very good form, his leg muscles well toned.
When he was just a couple weeks old and in my possession, he was named, not by creative intuition but because it was so obvious he was born to be a ‘sassy boy’.
After three years he’s no longer that little kitten that fit in the palm of my hand. He is one big boy now, barely able to fit on my lap. But he is so determined to harass me in any way he possibly can that after a while my legs go numb because the weight is so burdensome. It’s real nice when he decides to clean himself while I’m in such misery for lack of blood to my legs, or he falls limp in deep sleep for whatever length of time that serves his purpose. I tell ya, bad kitty!
It’s when he’s in a docile mood that I make my move and clench my hands around his neck and feel the softness of his hair. I feign anger and shake his head just a little bit but he’s too busy doing nothing to make a response. I don’t really need a reason but that’s when the spanking begins. Witnesses would claim that the soft pats are okay but when the butt thumpin’ begins they protest that it’s too hard, stop it! Bud Sassy makes no move to escape; he’s just at peace with the world around him as he could possibly be. Actually, he loves the touchy-feely strokes and body scratching. He doesn’t even flinch – he’s that comfortable with my loving hands.
And the gnawing at the ankles? Just when I think it might hurt, the tickling begins. He makes me chuckle every time. The stretching? He does it on his own but I help a little bit too when he looks at me on his side and his body language is almost pleading me to be his assistant in training. He’ll do this a few times every day.
Bad kitty? No. Good kitty!
Now, the morning food situation is all too real. Excuse me but I just have to find my Sassy cat and give him a good spanking. I good spanking indeed!
What do expect from the “owner” when he misbehaves? Sassy is incessantly at my feet either paw-pickin’ my socks which is okay I guess but it’s a precursor of him attacking my ankle – for cryin’ out loud, I can feel his teeth on my skin! Bad kitty.
His harassment starts early in the morning, well before sunrise, like at 530am. He is so persistent in trying to get fed before breakfast the 7am breakfast. For a Siamese cat that hasn’t yet developed into the typical yowler, he sure makes his voice heard loud, clear and annoying. Some days I have to kick him. Sorry but that’s the way it is. We’re still trying to work out the details about it being my house but his domain.
Once his tummy is fed, Sassy exposes that same tummy trying to be so loving but his selfish goal is get me to assist him in stretching. I will say that with my training he does have very good form, his leg muscles well toned.
When he was just a couple weeks old and in my possession, he was named, not by creative intuition but because it was so obvious he was born to be a ‘sassy boy’.
After three years he’s no longer that little kitten that fit in the palm of my hand. He is one big boy now, barely able to fit on my lap. But he is so determined to harass me in any way he possibly can that after a while my legs go numb because the weight is so burdensome. It’s real nice when he decides to clean himself while I’m in such misery for lack of blood to my legs, or he falls limp in deep sleep for whatever length of time that serves his purpose. I tell ya, bad kitty!
It’s when he’s in a docile mood that I make my move and clench my hands around his neck and feel the softness of his hair. I feign anger and shake his head just a little bit but he’s too busy doing nothing to make a response. I don’t really need a reason but that’s when the spanking begins. Witnesses would claim that the soft pats are okay but when the butt thumpin’ begins they protest that it’s too hard, stop it! Bud Sassy makes no move to escape; he’s just at peace with the world around him as he could possibly be. Actually, he loves the touchy-feely strokes and body scratching. He doesn’t even flinch – he’s that comfortable with my loving hands.
And the gnawing at the ankles? Just when I think it might hurt, the tickling begins. He makes me chuckle every time. The stretching? He does it on his own but I help a little bit too when he looks at me on his side and his body language is almost pleading me to be his assistant in training. He’ll do this a few times every day.
Bad kitty? No. Good kitty!
Now, the morning food situation is all too real. Excuse me but I just have to find my Sassy cat and give him a good spanking. I good spanking indeed!
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Today's Birthdays, Tomorrow's Memories
As a morning dose of entertainment I eventually turn to Page 2 of the Tampa Tribune where the latest lottery numbers are printed in the center of the page, a column by Television Critic Walter Belcher at the top and a celebrity rag sheet to the right with all that’s going on with those beautiful people in the entertainment fields. (Tony Dow will have a spot in the Louvre displaying one of his original abstract sculptures!)
Just below the deeds and misdeeds of celebrities, there’s a daily listing of Today’s Birthdays covering well-known professionals from all walks of life. Producers, directors, actors, actresses, sports figures, politicians, etc. Only the birthdays of the living are listed.
It’s become a morning mind exercise that leads to personal memories of events that might help be make a thoughtful guess on the age of each celebrity.
Take for instance, on November 5, Bryan Adams and Ryan Adams, who aren’t related, shared the same birthday. A very unique coincidence and particularly of interest because both are listened to often. Let’s take Bryan: recollection puts one of this first hit tunes Cuts Like a Knife somewhere in the early ‘80s shortly after moving from West Chicago, IL, to Santa Monica, CA, in 1981. That was 27 years ago, so assuming Bryan may have been maybe around 20 – simply because he looked young and many artists make their initial entry into the music scene once they’ve entered adulthood. My guess added 20 + 27 to equal 47 years old in 2008. Not bad since he was actually 48!
Ryan Adams, of course, is much younger with just a few years in the limelight whith music I consider alternative-rock-folk music, although the paper referenced his work as alternative-country. Maybe, but on his 2007 CD Easy Tiger some of the music reminded me of Neil Young; similarly, I never considered Neil a country singer.
Although Ryan’s CDs typically hide his face either with hair hanging down, or his face directed away from the camera, I figured maybe five years ago he was probably 20 when he released Love Is Hell. So, 20 + 5 would put him at the age of 25. A fairly shy cry from his actual 33 years.
Walter Cronkite had a birthday on Election Day 2008. Going back to the 60’s with recollections of his emotions on the assassination of JFK (1963) and the landing on the moon (1969) that would be 40-45 years ago when he may have been about 40, so the guess was about 85 years old – a poor guess since he turned 92 this year.
[My thoughts usually revisit certain periods of time when there was a memorable personal event, such as Neil Armstrong’s moon walk in the same era as a lone movie date to see 2001: A Space Odyssey and the Beatles’s songs Hey Jude, Get Back and Come Together.]
For another instance, Prince Charles was born on November 14 but, since he’s never been a person of interest in my life and I really didn't care, I just figured he had to be close to a decade older than myself. My guess was 65 although he was actually 60. My goal is to be within 3 years of each person's age.
Too often there are names I don’t recognize, such as actor Josh Duhamel (who? movies? or TV?) – 36. Former UN Secretary-General Boutros-Ghali? 86 yrs. Rapper E-40? 41 yrs. Rachel Appleton? 15. Holly Valance? 25. Kip Pardue? 32. Whatever! They all get a “I don’t know that one.”
There's a personal interest when a person's age is close to my own. In addition to myself, others in the not-quite-sixty group including Elvira, Charo, Ozzie Obsourne, Jay Leno, Robin Williams, Jessica Lange, Cheryl Ladd and Dr. Phil.
Just a few minutes in the morning and the windmills of my mind get the brain a-stirrin', with reflections on people, places and events that mark the years leading up the this time in my life. As the day progresses, who knows, the day’s activities may be remembered years from now when I relate an experience to a name on Today’s Birthdays.
Just below the deeds and misdeeds of celebrities, there’s a daily listing of Today’s Birthdays covering well-known professionals from all walks of life. Producers, directors, actors, actresses, sports figures, politicians, etc. Only the birthdays of the living are listed.
It’s become a morning mind exercise that leads to personal memories of events that might help be make a thoughtful guess on the age of each celebrity.
Take for instance, on November 5, Bryan Adams and Ryan Adams, who aren’t related, shared the same birthday. A very unique coincidence and particularly of interest because both are listened to often. Let’s take Bryan: recollection puts one of this first hit tunes Cuts Like a Knife somewhere in the early ‘80s shortly after moving from West Chicago, IL, to Santa Monica, CA, in 1981. That was 27 years ago, so assuming Bryan may have been maybe around 20 – simply because he looked young and many artists make their initial entry into the music scene once they’ve entered adulthood. My guess added 20 + 27 to equal 47 years old in 2008. Not bad since he was actually 48!
Ryan Adams, of course, is much younger with just a few years in the limelight whith music I consider alternative-rock-folk music, although the paper referenced his work as alternative-country. Maybe, but on his 2007 CD Easy Tiger some of the music reminded me of Neil Young; similarly, I never considered Neil a country singer.
Although Ryan’s CDs typically hide his face either with hair hanging down, or his face directed away from the camera, I figured maybe five years ago he was probably 20 when he released Love Is Hell. So, 20 + 5 would put him at the age of 25. A fairly shy cry from his actual 33 years.
Walter Cronkite had a birthday on Election Day 2008. Going back to the 60’s with recollections of his emotions on the assassination of JFK (1963) and the landing on the moon (1969) that would be 40-45 years ago when he may have been about 40, so the guess was about 85 years old – a poor guess since he turned 92 this year.
[My thoughts usually revisit certain periods of time when there was a memorable personal event, such as Neil Armstrong’s moon walk in the same era as a lone movie date to see 2001: A Space Odyssey and the Beatles’s songs Hey Jude, Get Back and Come Together.]
For another instance, Prince Charles was born on November 14 but, since he’s never been a person of interest in my life and I really didn't care, I just figured he had to be close to a decade older than myself. My guess was 65 although he was actually 60. My goal is to be within 3 years of each person's age.
Too often there are names I don’t recognize, such as actor Josh Duhamel (who? movies? or TV?) – 36. Former UN Secretary-General Boutros-Ghali? 86 yrs. Rapper E-40? 41 yrs. Rachel Appleton? 15. Holly Valance? 25. Kip Pardue? 32. Whatever! They all get a “I don’t know that one.”
There's a personal interest when a person's age is close to my own. In addition to myself, others in the not-quite-sixty group including Elvira, Charo, Ozzie Obsourne, Jay Leno, Robin Williams, Jessica Lange, Cheryl Ladd and Dr. Phil.
Just a few minutes in the morning and the windmills of my mind get the brain a-stirrin', with reflections on people, places and events that mark the years leading up the this time in my life. As the day progresses, who knows, the day’s activities may be remembered years from now when I relate an experience to a name on Today’s Birthdays.
Saturday, November 1, 2008
A Night To Remember
They not only came in waives but more alarmingly, they came in storms. Ghosts, goblins, Spidermen, witches, extra-terrestrials, princesses, werewolves, Dracula’s, and many more disguises worn by children, teens and adults greeted me on the other side of the front door. Not a single mummy! No Frankenstein? I didn’t know a single one of them yet they were all friendly, if not shy, tricking me into giving treats in celebration of Halloween.
Year one of living in Spring Hill found a fair number of costumed partakers of sweets and treats. Years two and three were few and far between, leaving too much candy to tempt my taste buds with mouth pleasing pieces of chocolate and flavors that would get the saliva flowing from the tartness of their ingredients.
Originally, the idea of spending money and a couple hours of time opening and closing the door for a glimpse of people large and small draped in one or other pieces of cloth, plastic and, in some cases, paint didn’t fit well with my attitude. But, on the eve of Halloween, I found myself at the closest of the many Wal-Mart stores in Hernando County heading toward the “Seasonal” aisle, confused and indecisive on which of the multitude of choices that would make me a popular host to the door-to-door spooks saying “Trick or Treat”.
I decided to ask a couple of kids standing next to me what might I pick to avoid a trick. Either they didn’t quite understand my wording or they had been brought up, as they should be, leery of adults offering candy. Luck had that Mom was right there and interpreted my question in simpler words.
The boy, about 10 years old, gave an immediate response of “Airheads”. I admitted to Mom that I had no idea what they were, at which time Dad magically produced a bag of the candy for my taking. Cool, I felt the thoughtful giver for the next night’s activities. The daughter, who had been silent to my original inquiry, maintained silence with an aloof presence and drifting away. When my comment reasoned she wasn’t a candy lover, Mom assured the opposite. Still they girl, in her early teens, offered no suggestions.
I wasn’t done with Mom quite yet. In an effort to be REAL popular, I needed more input. Starburst and Skittles, which I was familiar with, immediately came to mind so in shopping cart they went, one bag with a mixture of both. As we all meandered back and forth down the candy aisle, I had to explain to Mom that it was chocolate candies that were my favorite: Snickers, Clark Bars, Reese’s, etc.
I’m sure whatever I might have picked out there wouldn’t likely be a disappointed kid with whatever I deposited in the bag but, again, I really didn’t want to disappoint the little ones. Finally, I felt at ease with the bags of candy among the groceries and personal items in the shopping cart. It wasn’t quite time to go to the checkout lane as I still had to slip a few small bags of those chocolate delights among the other treats. I have to admit it was done with guilt, not that they would be hoarded; I did some generous sharing through the late evening hours.
Yes, I had quite a pile of candies. As a last minute choice to participate in the night’s activities, I wanted to make sure I didn’t shortchange any one of the potential visitors. I not only wanted to please but be generous, and I was. There was one kid who was already so awarded with goodies that his bag was nearly full but still with room for a few more; I chose not to slight the guy. He must have been proud of take for the evening; I was hopeful that he would share his bounty but that was up to him, not me.
As a not-so-typical treat, I had a placed three Golden Delicious apples in a paper bag hoping to find the right family with a Mom and Dad there to make sure they were inspected for safety; there’s always the chance that some ghastly person would ruin the night with an item foreign to the fruit. The parents, also in costume, and two little boys seemed the perfect choice. As Dad was the last to leave me at the door, I asked for his attention with ‘Excuse me…’ and explained that I love apples as no one else in the household but when they had been purchased I failed to remember soon-to-be installed bridgework kept me from enjoying the fruit. He glanced inside the bag and commented that his boys love apples. I was thanked and felt thankful myself.
I reserved that Hanna Montana candy necklaces for the little girls and a couple of stick-ons that came with the package for the littlest of the sugar-and-spices.
The crowning moment came at the very end of my participation of the evening. No knock on the door, no ring of the doorbell. Although I faintly heard the words ‘Trick or Treat’, I felt obstinate enough that I didn’t acknowledge the threat until I heard the greeting of a light tapping on the door. The little girl was so cute in an outfit and hat of a witch that made me think she was surely the Good Witch of the South. Once the door was open, not a sound was uttered from her mouth. She gave a shy smile then turned her back toward me, perhaps wanting to share the full sight of her costume. I asked her if she had a wand and, although she didn’t respond, Mom tried to find it but with no luck She couldn’t even respond when Mom prompted her to say those three little trademark words of the night.
The shining moment for the three of us came when I handed the last of the Hanna Montana stickers to Mom so they wouldn’t get crumpled. Bright eyes and a gaping mouth gave me the crowning moment of pleasure. As it was approaching the 10 o’clock hour, I prepared to close down the candy shop, turning the outside lights off once I was assured they were safely along their way.
As dark as the night had become, there was a glow of satisfaction for the appreciation the kids showed for my efforts to make their night a successful adventure. Each time the kids walked away from the house and down the sidewalk, I demanded they ‘Have fun!’
I have no doubt they did have fun many times over and I played a bit part in their satisfaction. Yes, the kids and I had a good amount of fun!
Year one of living in Spring Hill found a fair number of costumed partakers of sweets and treats. Years two and three were few and far between, leaving too much candy to tempt my taste buds with mouth pleasing pieces of chocolate and flavors that would get the saliva flowing from the tartness of their ingredients.
Originally, the idea of spending money and a couple hours of time opening and closing the door for a glimpse of people large and small draped in one or other pieces of cloth, plastic and, in some cases, paint didn’t fit well with my attitude. But, on the eve of Halloween, I found myself at the closest of the many Wal-Mart stores in Hernando County heading toward the “Seasonal” aisle, confused and indecisive on which of the multitude of choices that would make me a popular host to the door-to-door spooks saying “Trick or Treat”.
I decided to ask a couple of kids standing next to me what might I pick to avoid a trick. Either they didn’t quite understand my wording or they had been brought up, as they should be, leery of adults offering candy. Luck had that Mom was right there and interpreted my question in simpler words.
The boy, about 10 years old, gave an immediate response of “Airheads”. I admitted to Mom that I had no idea what they were, at which time Dad magically produced a bag of the candy for my taking. Cool, I felt the thoughtful giver for the next night’s activities. The daughter, who had been silent to my original inquiry, maintained silence with an aloof presence and drifting away. When my comment reasoned she wasn’t a candy lover, Mom assured the opposite. Still they girl, in her early teens, offered no suggestions.
I wasn’t done with Mom quite yet. In an effort to be REAL popular, I needed more input. Starburst and Skittles, which I was familiar with, immediately came to mind so in shopping cart they went, one bag with a mixture of both. As we all meandered back and forth down the candy aisle, I had to explain to Mom that it was chocolate candies that were my favorite: Snickers, Clark Bars, Reese’s, etc.
I’m sure whatever I might have picked out there wouldn’t likely be a disappointed kid with whatever I deposited in the bag but, again, I really didn’t want to disappoint the little ones. Finally, I felt at ease with the bags of candy among the groceries and personal items in the shopping cart. It wasn’t quite time to go to the checkout lane as I still had to slip a few small bags of those chocolate delights among the other treats. I have to admit it was done with guilt, not that they would be hoarded; I did some generous sharing through the late evening hours.
Yes, I had quite a pile of candies. As a last minute choice to participate in the night’s activities, I wanted to make sure I didn’t shortchange any one of the potential visitors. I not only wanted to please but be generous, and I was. There was one kid who was already so awarded with goodies that his bag was nearly full but still with room for a few more; I chose not to slight the guy. He must have been proud of take for the evening; I was hopeful that he would share his bounty but that was up to him, not me.
As a not-so-typical treat, I had a placed three Golden Delicious apples in a paper bag hoping to find the right family with a Mom and Dad there to make sure they were inspected for safety; there’s always the chance that some ghastly person would ruin the night with an item foreign to the fruit. The parents, also in costume, and two little boys seemed the perfect choice. As Dad was the last to leave me at the door, I asked for his attention with ‘Excuse me…’ and explained that I love apples as no one else in the household but when they had been purchased I failed to remember soon-to-be installed bridgework kept me from enjoying the fruit. He glanced inside the bag and commented that his boys love apples. I was thanked and felt thankful myself.
I reserved that Hanna Montana candy necklaces for the little girls and a couple of stick-ons that came with the package for the littlest of the sugar-and-spices.
The crowning moment came at the very end of my participation of the evening. No knock on the door, no ring of the doorbell. Although I faintly heard the words ‘Trick or Treat’, I felt obstinate enough that I didn’t acknowledge the threat until I heard the greeting of a light tapping on the door. The little girl was so cute in an outfit and hat of a witch that made me think she was surely the Good Witch of the South. Once the door was open, not a sound was uttered from her mouth. She gave a shy smile then turned her back toward me, perhaps wanting to share the full sight of her costume. I asked her if she had a wand and, although she didn’t respond, Mom tried to find it but with no luck She couldn’t even respond when Mom prompted her to say those three little trademark words of the night.
The shining moment for the three of us came when I handed the last of the Hanna Montana stickers to Mom so they wouldn’t get crumpled. Bright eyes and a gaping mouth gave me the crowning moment of pleasure. As it was approaching the 10 o’clock hour, I prepared to close down the candy shop, turning the outside lights off once I was assured they were safely along their way.
As dark as the night had become, there was a glow of satisfaction for the appreciation the kids showed for my efforts to make their night a successful adventure. Each time the kids walked away from the house and down the sidewalk, I demanded they ‘Have fun!’
I have no doubt they did have fun many times over and I played a bit part in their satisfaction. Yes, the kids and I had a good amount of fun!
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